Divorce FAQ

Frequently Asked Questions About Divorce In New York

What are some of the most common causes of divorce these days?

According to marriage counselors, divorce lawyers and other professionals and researchers, some triggers for marital dissolution include:

  • Disagreements about money
  • Conflicts with in-laws
  • Stress related to careers
  • Stress related to raising children
  • Affairs (infidelity)
  • Addictions (substance abuse or gambling)
  • Verbal, emotional or physical abuse
  • Sexual incompatibility or confusion
  • Growing apart over time

However, each couple’s reality is unique and complex, and it may not be possible to pigeonhole a decision to end a marriage into any single motivating factor.

Which times of the year see more divorces?

Many people claim that January sees higher rates of divorce than other times of the year. In fact, studies have shown that January, March and August or September (after or around vacation times) are all common times for initiation of divorce proceedings.

Is it true that divorces are decreasing in number?

While it may seem to be the case based on statistics, we must remember that previous decades (the 1970s and 1980s) saw high percentages of divorce after the passage of no-fault divorce laws and with other cultural influences.

How does a couple accomplish a simple uncontested divorce in New York?

It is natural for young couples or couples of any age who believe they have mutually decided to split up to look for quick, affordable ways to accomplish this. New York courts direct couples who want to prepare their own divorce documents to online instructions and tools for doing so. However, many people who attempt this discover problems or make mistakes that require a lawyer’s attention. Andrew A. Bokser encourages New Yorkers to seek counsel with an attorney before attempting a do-it-yourself divorce.

What are some smart divorce planning tips for someone who suspects it is inevitable?

If you have children, we recommend keeping a log of all doctors’ visits, parent-teacher conferences, child care expenses, school supply expenses and your participation in taking care of each child. Your detailed notes may be important in a child custody case.

Also, everyone, married or not, whether planning a divorce or not, would benefit from conducting a thorough inventory of assets, debts, accounts and legal documents like property deeds. Even if divorce is not on the horizon at this time, an estate planning review is excellent preparation for any unexpected life event like divorce.

How can I get personalized answers to my own questions about divorce in New York?

Consulting with an attorney is the best way to clarify your rights and the legal steps you can take to protect them. Schedule a consultation at our firm by calling 718-834-1904 or sending an online inquiry.